How to Help Her 

Are you concerned that your partner may be pregnant and you are unsure of what to do? As a guy, you may feel that you don’t want to or need to deal with this decision. Know you are not alone…

Maybe friends or family are encouraging you to push her to have an abortion.  Maybe you have unanswered questions about what your options are or how to care for her in this time.  Many couples face unplanned pregnancies and find themselves alarmed and overwhelmed.  She needs you, but may be unsure about what to do and fearful of the questions arising.  We often hear that men tell their partner “I’ll support whatever you decide,” thinking this is the freedom she needs to hear, but you may be communicating something totally different to her.  We can help.  

These ideas may help you through this time:

  • Listen and assure her that she is not alone, that you will be there for her.
  • Try to understand her fears and admit that you have fears, too
  • Get some coaching from a trusted source about your options.  The Womens Resource Center would love to be that help.

Before Making a Choice:

Decide to take responsibility in her choice

You may feel powerless in a culture that says “it’s her choice, not yours.”  The truth is, any decision about your baby affects both of you.  This is the time to speak up – and join with her – otherwise, you could end up getting shut out.  Unplanned pregnancy raises a lot of questions for both you and your partner.  The Womens Resource Center offers the education you need and the counselors to help guide you through that information.  You may come alone or with your partner for an appointment.  The very best plan means that before she decides, the two of you have learned about your options and decide together.

Determine to know the facts and choose your best future

Men tend to think that being supportive means they have to keep their emotions to themselves and leave the decision up to their partner.  You have a right to know the facts, too.  You can choose to parent your child or create an adoption plan.  You can also choose to have an abortion.  You have the right to know the facts about abortion and the associated risks to your partner and baby before going through a procedure that could have long-term effects on your health and well being.  The Womens Resource Center will join with you in presenting the facts and supporting you as you learn and decide together.

Dedicate yourself to supporting her and becoming the best dad you can be

You know that your opinion is vital to her decision about the growing life inside of her.  The truth is that women are more likely to choose abortion if they experience a lack of support.  That’s why now is the time to dedicate yourself to supporting her.  Make an appointment at the Womens Resource Center to receive help and information in your journey through unplanned pregnancy.  Our staff is here to listen and give you the tools you need to make an informed decision.  No pressure.  No cost.  Completely confidential for you both.